We are co-creators of our reality. In the following paragraphs, I have provided examples of how to use 4 Key actions to attract a life we want. Believing in possibilities, focusing attention on what we want, choosing our words wisely, and visualizing what we want are important aspects of co-creating.

1. Creating Begins with Belief in Possibilities

One of the most important aspects of the art of creating is to believe in possibilities. There is an amazing story of a potato farmer from Australia named Cliff Young, who at 61 years old shocked the world by winning the grueling 875-kilometer Sydney to Melbourne Ultra-marathon. Indeed, he shattered the old record by more than 2 days! No one expected much from Mr. Young who showed up wearing boots and overalls, though he later switched the boots out for tennis shoes. His running style, similar to his attire, was a rather awkward shuffle and the first day of the race he fell far behind. However, as other runners slept, Young kept on running and took over first place the first night, a position he would never relinquish.

What was it about this ultimate turtle and the hare story that allowed Cliff Young to accomplish such an impossible feat? He had no limiting beliefs. Indeed, he was accustomed to chasing sheep on his family farm for his entire life and at times, ran for days in pursuit of the animals. While Cliff was rounding up sheep, the other runners trained for many years and developed all kinds of limiting beliefs by observing other runners pursue similar dreams. In contrast, Cliff didn’t even begin running until he was 57 years old.

In another example of the power of belief, a study was conducted in 1979 in which a group of 75 year-old men were placed in an environment that mimicked 1959 in every way. These men showed remarkable improvement in many areas previously considered “irreversible,” including hand strength, finger dexterity (measure by actual finger length), IQ, memory, hearing, and sight. Even their faces were judged to look an average of 3 years younger by trained observers. In other words, the improvements shown by these men were not figments of their imagination. They were real physiological changes observable by others.

In order to strengthen the belief in anything it helps to remember that the thoughts we cultivate are the ones that will return. In the examples provided above, the men involved all believed that they could do more than what would typically be thought possible. In turn, they were able to accomplish something truly amazing.

2. Focus Thoughts on What You Want

Consider this: There is no difference between the power that brings waves to particles and that which brings our thoughts to form. Our thoughts produce waves much like that of radio waves. Objects in the universe of form receive these waves. The more clear and concise the thought, the more influence it has on the object of desire. This is the way we attract into our lives that which we focus our attention on, assuming that our desires are inline with the universal principles of karma.

It has become increasingly clear to me that meditating on that which we want is an invaluable tool in getting us to do the things necessary to attract those desires into our lives.  Considering that thoughts are patterns of energy, it stands to reason that they may at least have some control over matter, hence the old saying, “mind over matter.”

Turning attention to what we want is likely to attract it because the energy of the concept is maintained. Because thoughts are things (as all energy patterns are) if the attention can be continually directed toward the object of desire, eventually the Universal flow of energy will come together in such a way as to manifest the object whose energy pattern was maintained. However, it must be remembered that the same applies to objects that are not desired. If one holds the energy pattern of any object, undisturbed for a long enough period of time, the object will be manifested.

3. Use Words Wisely

Just like thoughts, our words hold energy. Once, when I was teaching a sports development class, I had the students all lined up on the side-line for some footwork drills. The training was designed to help the young athletes increase their foot speed to provide them with a competitive advantage in their given sport. During the first drill, the students were working on sliding, where the lead foot was to be pointed in the direction they were headed. Meanwhile, the trail foot was to remain perpendicular to the lead foot, and when pushing off, forced the feet to come together.

I was barking out directions to the students and said, “Don’t let your feet touch!” Immediately I recognized what I had said and changed it to, “Focus on keeping your feet slightly separated.” The difference was subtle and most likely was not even noticed by the students, at least not consciously. However, I recognized right away that the change was made in part to what I had read previously about keeping one’s attention focused on what is desired, rather than what is not wanted. Because of this realization, I was intentional about everything I said for the rest of the class session, being sure to direct all feedback toward what I wanted to see the students work on, rather than on what they should avoid.

It is extremely important to always direct our words toward what we want to see happen, rather than to avoid what is not wanted. Whenever a thought crosses the mind that is out of our control, such as a past event, we must immediately dismiss it and focus on what we want to see happen now. The memory of the past event could simply serve as a reminder to continue directing all thoughts and words toward the affirmative. In turn, all of our energy can be funneled into only those things we want to see take fruit in our life. Because we don’t use any energy on thinking about negative aspects of our life, we have more resources to focus on those thoughts that ultimately lead toward the desired goals. I suggest you make a promise to yourself. From this day forward always direct your language toward that which you want to see manifest in your life. This simple act will help guide your thoughts in a similar direction.

4. Visualize What You Want

Visualization with regards to turning thoughts into reality is more “real” than I ever imagined. We have the power to picture the desires we wish to manifest in our lives and make it real. There are countless number of success stories to support this as truth. In fact, I am led to believe everyone has a story of their own to tell, if they look deep enough and are not limited by thinking that their story is insignificant. I can remember many past events in my own life that supports this idea, such as my unwavering belief that I would be able to build the most successful basketball program in the area. Throughout my coaching career, all my attention went toward the direction of fulfilling this belief. The time came when a case could be made that I did indeed do just that, despite the fact that the school I coached at was much smaller than many of the schools we competing with.

The idea of using visualization to get what we want or make what we want happen is utilized all the time in sports. Indeed, visualizations are one of the most powerful tools in the arsenal of the art of creating. We have the power to create what we visualize with clarity and certainty. The key is to hold fast to the visualizations until all doubt is gone. In turn, we will believe that we can achieve our goals. Soon, nothing will get in the way of fulfilling our desires.

For a detailed explanation of creating desires, see my book: Creation: The Art of Manifesting Desires